• Member login
  • Sign Up
  • Search
    Generic filters

The Four Tendencies

Aug 21, 2021

Gretchen Rubin provides a fresh perspective on personality profiles and how they impact what we do. She particularly points out the Obliger tendency which is another word for a Nice Guy when it comes to men. I would highly recommend this book as it will help you understand some of the nuances of your and others’ behaviors and give you actionable suggestions to make changes. One thing that resonated with me is that it points out that about 40% of people have the Obliger tendency and those with Upholder tendencies have an Obliger tendency. This means that there is a large proportion of people who wish to meet the needs of others, the key is how to do it without sacrificing our own needs.


Upcoming Meetings

Relationships – Deciding When to Stay When to Leave
Nov 29, 2022
26 people are attending this event.

At points in our relationships, we have this agonizing uncertainty about whether it would be best to stay in or leave the relationship. We might find ourselves harboring a curious longing: that the relationship could be even worse than what it is now. If our partner had done something obviously ...

View More

Not a member yet?

Sign up to attend an upcoming meeting

It’s Time To Establish Boundaries & Live With Integrity

Apr 08, 2022

As the second part of this four-part Integrated Men series on anxiety, we will now look…

Read More

Ditching ‘Mr Nice Guy’

Apr 01, 2022

As Nice Guys, we regularly go above and beyond to gain approval from others through people-pleasing…

Read More

Becoming an Integrated Male

Feb 18, 2022

Are you a Nice Guy? Do you always want to gain someone’s approval in one way…

Read More

Valentine’s Day Ideas to Have Fun Without Breaking the Bank

Feb 11, 2022

For obvious reasons, it’s pretty typical to want to go above and beyond to make sure…

Read More