Does This Sound Like You in Relationships?
“I say yes when I mean no… then I feel resentful later.”
“I avoid hard conversations, overthink everything, and hope it fixes itself.”
“I give a lot, but I don’t feel respected — or even seen — in my relationships.”
“I want to lead with self-respect — set boundaries, communicate clearly, and follow through.”
If any of this hits, get started with the quiz. You’ll get a personalized report on your people-pleasing pattern, what it’s costing you, and your next step to become the Integrated Man.
What To Expect From The Community?
Members of the Community get perks that aren’t available anywhere else. The collective of Integrated Men is always willing to share valuable knowledge and resources to help you make better decisions and take advantage of opportunities to improve your life for the better.
Integrated Men Community Membership Benefits
Weekly check ins
Weekly check-ins are a great way to get continuous feedback from the group and learn to open yourself to be vulnerable in a safe environment. We have a minimum of 48 weeks where we meet regularly. This is in addition to other events, meetings and workshops throughout the year.
Casual Meets
There are casual meetings outside our main weekly meeting to get to know members of the community on a deeper level. This is a great way to build and grow what Dr. Glover calls consciously co-created reciprocal systems.
Note: Scheduled in-person meetings are only available in Salt Lake area at the moment. Our members in various cities do connect and get together for informal gatherings using the community app.
Reading Recommendations
During our weekly meetings and through our online community, you will get access to reading recommendations that would allow you to help develop better thought patterns.
1:1 Coaching (New)
Mentorship and coaching program with one of our Integrated Men coaches available starting June 20th, 2022.
Details: Six 1:1 coaching sessions with the annual membership coaching plan.
Boundaries
An important aspect of becoming an integrated man is learning to set healthy boundaries. This is a topic that comes up frequently and it is a skill that takes a lot of time and practice. The community provides a safe place to learn to set healthy boundaries so you can go practice in the world.
Accountability and Responsibility
There is no change and growth without accountability. The integrated men take full responsibility for their lives and their actions. We strive to create a culture of accountability to bring about change we like to see in ourselves.
Workshops
Frequent workshops that help you deep-dive into special topics, make changes, and progress in life. Work in a small group setting to unpack what’s holding you back and develop tools to integrate all aspects of your life.
Notes from our Weekly Meetings (Members Only)
Our weekly (weeknight) meetings are comprised of two parts. A healthy and fun discussion follows the check ins. The presentation slides from the night meetings are available for review online.
Note: Meetings notes are only available to Members, Access Pass holders can request individual meeting notes or request an upgrade to Membership (membership to Integrated Men is available at the discretion of Integrated Men leadership team.)
What our members are saying
I got into this group because I found myself at a very low point in my life.
I’d come out of a 33-year marriage that failed, in a large part, because of my actions, and I was just spiralling into a deep, dark place.
I started to realize that there’s not going to be anybody in this world who’d want to be around me if I can’t find love for myself.
So I started researching where I can find men like me, looking to make a change in their lives.
When I came across Adeel’s group (Integrated Men), I joined and immediately felt welcome into a group of men working on the same struggles I was.
I just finished up the retreat, and I am noticeably lighter in my step. I feel happiness and a future ahead that I know I can handle.
Honestly, I feel like I have this masculine energy that I haven’t felt in a really long time.
– Robert G, Member.
I was looking for men who were growth-oriented and willing to admit they had flaws they wanted to work on. My time in the group has provided exactly that—a real sense of community and connection.
Through the weekly meetings and hearing honest feedback, I learned enough about myself to finally accept that a relationship I was in wasn’t right for me, and I found the support to move forward.
I’ve been tested in my ability to be vulnerable and expose parts of myself I’ve never shared with anyone else. This isn’t a place where we just come to complain; there is a sense of accountability that I expect from others and myself. There is real growth happening here, and I am excited about my future.
– Michael, Member since 2022
The retreat was a very positive experience for me. Through a lot of introspection, I’ve come away with my own personalized roadmap for the future. By examining where I’ve come from and how I got to where I am now, I’ve reached a state where I can be forgiving of my past mistakes.
At the same time, I recognize that so much of my life is within my control. Hearing other people share their feedback and stories was uplifting, it helps you realize you aren’t doing this all by yourself. I’m leaving with a sense of purpose, a clear direction, and a ‘fire’ to get going. I am truly excited for what’s next.
– Chris H., Member
I’ve been part of this group for a few years now. I originally joined out of curiosity because I felt I was just ‘too nice’ and wanted to learn how to express my more assertive side. Since joining, I’ve done a lot of positive work and have been able to open up much more about my feelings.
While I have a therapist to help me uncover things, some struggles are just too hard to go through alone. This group provides the community I needed to take better care of myself, even down to how I dress and allowing myself to have more fun. I’m no longer afraid of conflict, which has been a huge shift for me. I’ve learned to stop being so attached to the outcome of dating and started living more for myself.
– Dino, Member
I joined during a very difficult time, having spent years working through personal issues while feeling hesitant to be proactive. I knew I needed deeper camaraderie, and I saw dividends almost immediately. In my very first meeting, I shared things I hadn’t planned on sharing. It was a safe space to finally lay it all out there.
That meeting set the tone for how I live my life. Four months in, my relationship with my wife is built on mutual trust and open communication. It’s been groundbreaking to work through 30-plus years of experiences I hadn’t wanted to deal with before.
Having these men to help guide me is massively important; I wouldn’t be able to do this alone. In this safe space, I’m not judged, I’m lifted up.
– Eric, Member
Get smarter, make faster progress,
and avoid common mistakes.
There are lots of ways you can cut years off the learning curve and put yourself in a position to succeed.
One way is through reading — and integrated men is devoted to helping you through the process of self-education.
But there’s another important, sometimes underestimated approach: shortening the path to wisdom by connecting to other like-minded people.
You must learn from those who have already completed the mazes you’re interested in running. If you don’t, you’re wasting a lot of time and effort.
We’ve made that journey easier for you with the Integrated Men Learning Community.
Things to know before you consider
joining the community
People who benefit from the community are regular members to make an active effort to make a change in their lives. This is a high accountability community and it requires a high level of commitment from all involved. As such, it is advised prospective members to first determine if they have time, space and financial resources in place to take on such an undertaking.
“Breaking free from the Nice Guy Syndrome involves a radical change in perspective and behavior. Trying to do it halfway will only result in needless suffering.”
Dr. Robert Glover
Member Success Story
I had been stuck in the same job and position for years and couldn’t make any headway in my life. This was also impacting my relationships as I felt I was not fulfilling my full potential in life. With the encouragement and feedback I received from men in the support community, I was able to negotiate a pay raise and a promotion. I am also making progress in my personal relationships as I now have better tools to communicate with my spouse and my kids.
Jon – May 2022
Community Web Access
Stay connected with other members throughout the week for continued support and guidance, or just to share your learnings, via the web and mobile app.
Come Join Us
Join us to get access to a community of smart, driven people on a dedicated member forum, with channels open for discussing men’s work, accountability, reading suggestions, opportunities to attend member gatherings, and other topics of interest. It’s a community of like-minded people just like you. Discuss topics, and bounce off ideas with men who are on a shared journey of personal development.
Ready to Get Involved in the Integrated Men Community?
Step 1
~ 3 minutes
Take the assessment quiz (it only takes 3 minutes) and get your free downloadable PDF report.
You’ll learn your people-pleasing tendencies, your key strengths, and the top growth areas to focus on next—plus a clear next step to start leading with integrity.
Step 2
Apply & Pick a Time
Takes < 5 minutes
Complete the application and schedule your consultation.
Note: After you take the quiz, you’ll receive an email with a link to the application.
Step 3
Attend Your Consultation
~ 45 minutes
A consultation call to understand your goals, answer your questions, and map out the next steps toward boundaries, clarity, and follow-through.
Welcome to the Integrated Men Community
Complete the onboarding steps to get started with the community. It only take a few minutes.
Commonly asked questions
Because of the nature of this work, I don’t offer free trials.
Integrated Men is a space where men are open and vulnerable about their struggles. A small financial commitment helps protect the integrity of that space and ensures the men who show up are serious about doing the work, and not just venting.
Here, you’ll be supported by a grounded, caring group of men, and you’ll also be challenged. The feedback you receive, if you’re willing to be honest and take responsibility, is often more direct and effective than traditional therapy. That only works if you’re willing to apply it.
Our meetings are held on Tuesday nights (a minimum of 48 weeks a year). We meet online once a week and also in small private groups. We usually have about 50 people attend the weeknight meetings. We split into small groups of 6 – 8 people so everyone gets time to share.
We are a welcoming community, and over the course of your time as part of the community, you will get to know people intimately.
At your first meeting, be prepared to share a little bit about yourself as an introduction.
We begin with check-ins for the first half of the meeting. We split into groups of about 6 – 8 (via zoom rooms) and talk about what’s going on in our lives and get feedback from other community members. As a new member, we highly encourage you to share your story with us. People who get the most out of these meetings are the ones who are willing to get feedback on their situations and take action. Small steps make a big difference over time.
Check-ins are followed by the discussion and presentation of the night, and all members are encouraged to participate. After the discussion, you are free to hang around and get additional feedback from some long-standing group members.
People just like you, from all walks of life, attend these meetings.
We have business owners, doctors, engineers, teachers, lawyers, pilots, and sometimes even therapists attend these meetings. These people are no different than you, and they can empathize with your struggles. You get a community of smart people committed to self-improvement who know what you are going through and are at different stages of their lives.
How to Get Accepted Into the Community
Quick steps to become part of our community:
- 1
Complete Quiz(Time to completion: 7 mins)
Complete the Integrated Men quiz to understand how you fare in life and relationships.
- 2
Complete Application form(Time to completion: 10 mins)
Complete the Application form, which helps us determine if this community is a good fit for you.
- 3
Attend a FREE Webinar (Optional)(Time to completion: 45 mins)
Attend an optional FREE webinar to learn more.
- 4
Sign up for an Access Pass(Time to completion: 10 mins)
Three options available
- 5
Read and agree to Community Standards(Time to completion: 5 mins)
You're all set!
Welcome to the Community