I joined the group in June 2022 looking for male companionship after reading Dr. Glover’s book. It has always been a struggle of mine to make male friends and be truly open and honest with them. I was a little apprehensive when I first signed up, but I decided to make the leap because of the advice: ‘If it scares you, go do it’.

It has been a very welcoming organization, and the guys have been incredibly supportive. Even though our weekly check-ins are on Zoom, I look forward to them every Tuesday night; they have really changed the direction of my life over the last year.

Getting together for the retreat and spending an extended period of time with guys who are on the same personal journey was powerful. It allowed me to share what I’m thinking and feeling, and I realized we have much more in common and more support than we even know. Being able to sit down, eat together, and get one-on-one time beyond the formal sessions was a great opportunity to share additional experiences. I am extremely happy I found this group and can continue to grow with them.

– Jonathon, Member since 2022

I joined the Integrated Men Support Group about a year ago following the breakup of my marriage of 27-plus years. It was a time of tremendous sadness and pain. After reading No More Mr. Nice Guy, I realized I had many of the traits described and that I couldn’t do what I needed to do by myself.

I needed help, guidance, and accountability. This group allowed me to speak to the challenges and toxic feelings I had about myself to men who understood and did not judge. The format is excellent, from the weekly check-ins to the open forums, and it has provided the support I needed to make real changes in my life. I’ve made a lot of progress this past year, and I’m grateful for the accountability that keeps me moving forward.

– Mario, Member

I joined in 2016 after a bad breakup, looking for answers. While I had support from family, it was mostly sympathy; what I actually needed to grow was honest feedback and accountability. In this group, I found a safe space to open up without the fear of being judged.

The group helped me navigate the dating world again, but it also taught me to recognize ‘Nice Guy’ traps, specifically the habit of taking care of everyone else while my own needs went unmet. I eventually met my wife and got married, but I’ve learned that marriage is a continued work in progress.

Even years later, I continue to get insights on how to navigate life without giving into expectations while ensuring my needs are met.

It is a massive advantage to learn from other men’s mistakes rather than just your own. You should always surround yourself with people who want the best for you, and this group is exactly that

– Krishna, Member since 2016

I joined during a very difficult time, having spent years working through personal issues while feeling hesitant to be proactive. I knew I needed deeper camaraderie, and I saw dividends almost immediately. In my very first meeting, I shared things I hadn’t planned on sharing. It was a safe space to finally lay it all out there.

That meeting set the tone for how I live my life. Four months in, my relationship with my wife is built on mutual trust and open communication. It’s been groundbreaking to work through 30-plus years of experiences I hadn’t wanted to deal with before.

Having these men to help guide me is massively important; I wouldn’t be able to do this alone. In this safe space, I’m not judged, I’m lifted up

– Eric, Member

I’ve been part of this group for a few years now. I originally joined out of curiosity because I felt I was just ‘too nice’ and wanted to learn how to express my more assertive side. Since joining, I’ve done a lot of positive work and have been able to open up much more about my feelings.

While I have a therapist to help me uncover things, some struggles are just too hard to go through alone. This group provides the community I needed to take better care of myself, even down to how I dress and allowing myself to have more fun. I’m no longer afraid of conflict, which has been a huge shift for me. I’ve learned to stop being so attached to the outcome of dating and started living more for myself.

– Dino, Member

The retreat was a very positive experience for me. Through a lot of introspection, I’ve come away with my own personalized roadmap for the future. By examining where I’ve come from and how I got to where I am now, I’ve reached a state where I can be forgiving of my past mistakes.

At the same time, I recognize that so much of my life is within my control. Hearing other people share their feedback and stories was uplifting, it helps you realize you aren’t doing this all by yourself. I’m leaving with a sense of purpose, a clear direction, and a ‘fire’ to get going. I am truly excited for what’s next.

– Chris H., Member

I was looking for men who were growth-oriented and willing to admit they had flaws they wanted to work on. My time in the group has provided exactly that—a real sense of community and connection.

Through the weekly meetings and hearing honest feedback, I learned enough about myself to finally accept that a relationship I was in wasn’t right for me, and I found the support to move forward.

I’ve been tested in my ability to be vulnerable and expose parts of myself I’ve never shared with anyone else. This isn’t a place where we just come to complain; there is a sense of accountability that I expect from others and myself. There is real growth happening here, and I am excited about my future.

– Harrison A., Member

I joined Integrated Men during a really tough season with my wife. We ended up splitting shortly after I found the group, and I’ve been showing up on Tuesday nights for about 16 months now.

Talking with this group helped me get through my divorce. Knowing other men have gone through similar trials allowed me to share my experiences and gain different perspectives, which was vital for my healing.

In the past, I would shut down or shut out difficult emotions. This group helped me work through those motions and finally feel like a human being again. I was able to find a sense of vulnerability and community that helped me stop hiding and start healing.

– Jason C. Member

I joined this group to combat ‘Nice Guy Syndrome’ and improve my emotional state, my mental clarity, and my overall lifestyle. Since then, I’ve been able to conduct a tremendous amount of growth with a high level of support.

At the retreat, I was finally able to express myself openly and connect with men who are on a similar path. We support each other through different life challenges. I’ve learned how to set healthy boundaries for myself and apply discipline to my daily life.

This has led to more emotionally healthy relationships going forward. I plan to continue applying these teachings for a lifetime.

– Guillermo, Member since 2022

I got into this group because I found myself at a very low point in my life.

I’d come out of a 33-year marriage that failed, in a large part, because of my actions, and I was just spiralling into a deep, dark place.

I started to realize that there’s not going to be anybody in this world who’d want to be around me if I can’t find love for myself.

So I started researching where I can find men like me, looking to make a change in their lives.

When I came across Adeel’s group (Integrated Men), I joined and immediately felt welcome into a group of men working on the same struggles I was.

I just finished up the retreat, and I am noticeably lighter in my step. I feel happiness and a future ahead that I know I can handle.

Honestly, I feel like I have this masculine energy that I haven’t felt in a really long time.

– Robert G, Member.

I was looking for male companionship after reading Dr. Glover’s book. I came across this group and have had a lot of strong experiences that have truly changed the direction of my life over the last year.
It has always been a struggle of mine to make male friends and be open and honest with them. But I’ve learned that if something scares you, you should go do it.
I made the leap, and the guys have been incredibly supportive. Being able to share what I’m thinking and feeling, and realizing we have so much more in common and more support than we realize, has been transformative.
All we have to do is be brave enough to show up and be there for each other. I am extremely happy that I found this group and can continue to grow with them.

– Michael, Member since 2022

While it’s no substitution for a good therapy session, therapy tends to be more expensive. And generally doesn’t encourage you to stop being a nice guy. And tend to not be hosted in the local bar. So yeah – it’s not at all like group therapy. Instead, you’ll find a great group of guys encouraging each other to go for what they want, teaching methods to avoid toxic patterns of manipulating, and learning how to overcome personal shame and anxiety. So come through the open door, take a seat, and learn how to stop being a nice guy without also being an asshole. (You might worry this group is about becoming mean. But don’t fret – you’re probably already too far on the other side of the nice scale to slide to the other end.)

Scott – May 2019

A group for men who want to improve their lives professionally, socially, romantically, etc. People looking for pickup tips and tricks, this is not for you. This group is about being authentic to yourself and others, not learning how to manipulate women into liking you for an act you learned.

Peter – Jan 2019

Great place to share and learn from others while on your journey of personal growth. This group has helped me through difficult times, and I’ve made a lot of great friends along the way. Adeel has put a lot of effort in making the group beneficial for everyone, each week focusing in on a different topic that helps drive the personal growth of the attendees. If you are taking the time to read this chances are high that this group is for you.

David – Feb 2018

I gotta’ say, it is good. I very much liked the director the ‘check-in’ leader gave the individuals in the group. And the conversations w/in the larger group are interesting & instructive as we attempt to recover from being nice guys.

Alex – Nov 2015

Words can’t describe.

Roger – Sep 2015

If the “About Us” section strikes a chord with you, this is THE group to be in. Safe, very supportive. NOT a ‘gripe’ group. This group is fully supportive and provides each week tools to help over come the “Nice Guy” traits and improving Mens lives!

Tracy – Jul 2015

I love it. I never knew there were others like me. It is therapeutic to meet with these guys. They are great. Love the format…breakouts then lesson. Great stuff!

Devin – Apr 2015

This group is a lifesaver to guys who are habitually Anxious to Please others.

Mark – Feb 2015

A bunch of great guys who get together for interesting and fun events.

Steve – Nov 2014

Great and safe room; I always enjoy it and I always learn something. This is very much appreciated.

Steven – Aug 2014

Its great to be able to discuss life with other men and help each other make changes that better our lives .

Paul – Aug 2014

Excellent

Gary – May 2014

I felt very welcomed and heard sincere advise and support given to everyone there. I will be there next week for sure.

Mark – Feb 2014

Great group of guys. Very supportive and helpful.

Benjamin – Dec 2013

I really enjoy this group, it is very insightful, and I have learned a lot. I’m really glad I ran across this group on meetup.

Jeff – Nov 2013

Just what I needed right now!

Ryan – Oct 2013

I enjoyed the welcome, the company and the content. A valuable Meetup

Larry – Apr 2013

Really good – worth being a part of!

John – Jan 2013

I love these guys. I feels so glad that im not the only one going through something like this alone and it brings me a sense of comfort to know im not alone. These guys have been so supportive of me even though im still young i appreciate their insights.

Kristopher – Sep 2012

Love it

Philip – Jun 2012

Best group around

Curtis – Apr 2012

I enjoyed everything about the meetup group and I look forward to more opportunities to learn. Thanks guys!

Zak – Feb 2012

I really appreciate the fact that there are others out there that understand what we as men are feeling and dealing with. I look forward to getting to know the guys that are there.

Robbie – Oct 2011

Great group!

Scott – Aug 2011

This is a great group if your to shed the “Nice Guy” and become a “Man”!

Alan – Jul 2011

This is a great group that really delves into relationships and helps analyze situations in a healthy manner.

Nathan – Feb 2011

Awesome group, looking forward to future meetups.

Dave – Jan 2011

Highly recommend for any guy wanting to improve himself and his life!

Scott – Jan 2011

My ex was taking me to the cleaners, despite the fact that I was not even the aggressor in the relationship. The guidance I received from Adeel, and the support from the community helped me set on the right course with my divorce proceedings, and eventually, I ended up with a much more favorable outcome. I was able to set aside my emotions and not let that collude my judgment of the situation. I knew that I had a therapist and a supportive community of men to help me move forward in life.
The investment I made is worth the new life I have.

Brandon – Feb 2017