Today, you will ask yourself the question and find answers to why you believe you have to put up with shit to get love.
In the past weeks we have talked about why nice guys and bad daters, which includes you/me/all of us, have had special issues around rejection loss and heartbreak. We are going to continue our discussion about idealized relationships in a very specific way. The ultimate idealized relationship is the trauma bonded relationship. Almost always, one of the key ingredients is, you have to have at least one person who is codependent and who’s used to putting up with shit(abuse) to get love. It feels so familiar to this person to have to work to get a person to love them and treat them right. If you’re the codependent half of this relationship, you can’t believe that such an amazing person wants you. They seem like a prize to you. There’s often an emotional connection too. They’re fun, they’re energetic, they’re often very affectionate, witty and sexual. The harder you try to get someone to like you, believe it or not, the more bonded you become with them and the more important they seem to you.
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