Relationships – Deciding When to Stay When to Leave

Nov 29, 2022 | 6:00 p.m., Mountain Time

At points in our relationships, we have this agonizing uncertainty about whether it would be best to stay in or leave the relationship. We might find ourselves harboring a curious longing: that the relationship could be even worse than what it is now.

If our partner had done something obviously and egregiously appalling, or if they have turned sour and unpleasant to a point where you can’t take it anymore – in short, they despise us, and we despise them – it would be clear what we need to do.

But there are situations where it’s complicated; we continue to like our partner at times, we laugh together, we maintain respect for each other, and they did look great the other night. It makes us think that they’re better than the majority of the people that we come across.

At the same time, we can’t be ourselves around them. I have seen men long for the times when they can be by themselves because they are unable to pursue their passions. They believe that their partners are stopping them from fulfilling their life’s purpose.

This conundrum is what many people in relationships suffer from, and while there are no cut-and-dry answers that we can provide, I hope this week’s discussion helps you make a better decision for your life. A decision based on the knowledge that the unknowns in life are not as scary and you can handle whatever life throws your way.