Embracing Imperfection – Freedom for the Anxiety of Perfectionism

Jul 05, 2022 | 6:00 p.m., Mountain Time

Since perfectionism is a deep core issue for most nice guys and most bad daters, it creates all kinds of suffering for nice guys. It creates excessive and unnecessary anxiety. And it often leads to nice guys hiding themselves and not letting people get to know them.

It typically leads nice guys to do nothing in situations where they are afraid they might fail, or be found out. And so this is especially true when it comes to dating and relationships.

As we talk about in our meetings, nice guy syndrome is fundamentally an anxiety-based disorder. Nice guys are trying to manage their general life anxiety by trying to do everything perfectly. They believe, that if they can just do everything right, everything should work out, and no one will ever get mad at them, criticize them, or leave them.

Let’s wrap up this two-part series on perfectionism with some action steps that you can take to start embracing imperfection in your life.