# Integrated Men: A community to help men develop identity and purpose Generated by Yoast SEO v28.4, this is an llms.txt file, meant for consumption by LLMs. ## Pages - [Home](https://integratedmen.net/) - [Summit \- 2027](https://integratedmen.net/summit-2027/) - [No More Mr\. Nice Guy](https://integratedmen.net/no-more-mr-nice-guy/) - [Refund Policy](https://integratedmen.net/refund-policy/) - [No More Mr\. Nice Guy \- LP](https://integratedmen.net/no-more-mr-nice-guy-lp/) ## Groups - [Membership 49/450](https://integratedmen.net/plans/membership-49/) - [Membership 10/96](https://integratedmen.net/plans/membership-96/) - [Membership \- See Join the Community Page](https://integratedmen.net/plans/membership-29/) ## Book - [The Way of the Superior Man](https://integratedmen.net/book/the-way-of-the-superior-man/) - [No More Mr\. Nice Guy](https://integratedmen.net/book/nmmng/) - [Dating Essentials for Men](https://integratedmen.net/book/dating-essentials-for-men/) - [Daring Greatly](https://integratedmen.net/book/daring-greatly/) - [The Four Tendencies](https://integratedmen.net/book/the-four-tendencies/) ## FAQ - [How do I reset my password?](https://integratedmen.net/faq_post/how-do-i-reset-my-password/) - [Can I update my email address or other personal information?](https://integratedmen.net/faq_post/can-i-update-my-email-address-or-other-personal-information/) - [How do I cancel my subscription?](https://integratedmen.net/faq_post/how-do-i-cancel-my-subscription/) - [Can I switch from a monthly plan to an annual plan?](https://integratedmen.net/faq_post/can-i-switch-from-a-monthly-plan-to-an-annual-plan/) - [How can I log in to my account to manage my membership?](https://integratedmen.net/faq_post/why-cant-i-log-in-to-your-site-2/) ## Weekly Meetings - [Integrated Men: Breaking Free from Self\-Limiting Beliefs \[2026\]](https://integratedmen.net/weekly-meetings/integrated-men-breaking-free-from-self-limiting-beliefs-2026/) - [The Integrated Man's Agreements for Success in Relationship \[2026\]](https://integratedmen.net/weekly-meetings/the-integrated-mans-agreements-for-success-in-relationship-2026/) - [Integrated Men: How To Avoid Losing Yourself In A Relationship \- Part Two \[2026\]](https://integratedmen.net/weekly-meetings/integrated-men-how-to-avoid-losing-yourself-in-a-relationship-part-two-2026/) - [Taking the Lead: How Integrated Men Set the Tone in Relationships \[2026\]](https://integratedmen.net/weekly-meetings/taking-the-lead-how-integrated-men-set-the-tone-in-relationships-2026/) - [Integrated Men: How To Avoid Losing Yourself In A Relationship \- Part One \[2026\]](https://integratedmen.net/weekly-meetings/integrated-men-how-to-avoid-losing-yourself-in-a-relationship-part-one-2026/) ## Events - [Enmeshment and Avoidance Patterns](https://integratedmen.net/events/enmeshment-and-avoidance-patterns/): Dr Glover says there are two types of Nice Guys\. They follow patterns of enmeshment and avoidance which prevent them from getting the love they want\. This intimacy balancing act gets played out in two distinct ways for Nice Guys\. The first is through becoming overly involved in an intimate relationship at the expense of one's self and other outside interests\. The second is through being emotionally unavailable to a primary partner while playing the Nice Guy role outside of the relationship\. Dr Glover calls the first type of Nice Guy an enmesher and the second type an avoider\. Let's meet up and after the check\-ins and talk about these two types of Nice Guys and discuss ways of breaking unhealthy patterns of enmeshment and avoidance\. - [Breakups \- Understanding and dealing with heartbreak and loss \(Part 1\)](https://integratedmen.net/events/breakups-understanding-and-dealing-with-heartbreak-and-loss-part-1/): As we come towards the end of the year, I want to address the elephant in the room, which is the loss of a relationship\. Pretty much all men that come to our group have generally come because of a crisis, and usually, the crisis is that of a loss of a relationship\. Dr\. Glover says: "Heartbreak and loss are part of the human condition\. You haven’t lived until you’ve had your heartbroken\." Based on Dr\. Glover's work we will discuss heartbreak and loss, diving into human evolution, interpersonal neurobiology, and attachment theory to explain why we are wired to desire connection and why its disappearance hurts so much\. We will discuss why Nice Guys tend to be so risk\-averse and guarded when it comes to love and loss\. We will also explore why nice guys tend to be so risk\-averse and guarded when it comes to love and loss\. issues include social anxiety, the fantasy Life of nice guys, deprivation, thinking, shame, and idealized relationships\. We will take a couple of weeks to discuss the loss of a relationship and why it happens and strategies to get over the heartbreak and come out stronger as we move forward\. Join me for part one of this discussion this Wednesday\. - [Thanksgiving Week \- No Meeting](https://integratedmen.net/events/thanksgiving-week-no-meeting-2/): No meeting on Wednesday of Thanksgiving Week \(Nov 25th\)\.Spend time with friends and family, see you guys in December\. - [The Lie of Niceness](https://integratedmen.net/events/the-lie-of-niceness-2/): Dr\. Glover says: Most Nice Guys tend to think in black and white, so becoming a jerk might seem like the only alternative to being nice, but there is another, much more effective alternative\. This week, let's talk about better alternatives to just being a Nice Guy and how you can act with integrity and gain the trust of people in your life by living an authentic life\. A life lived without seeking attachment to outcomes but caring about things and people that really matter\. - [Making a Great Cake of Life \(Part 2\)](https://integratedmen.net/events/making-a-great-cake-of-life-part-2-2/): If you are looking for a woman to fill your life and complete you, you will never be whole or happy\. A woman can't be the center of your life\. She can't complete you\. In this week's discussion, we are going to continue our discussion about ways to create a great cake of life\. We are going to talk about differentiation and how a lack of differentiation is inauthentic\. This part of the discussion is especially geared towards people in relationships\. ## Testimonial - [Brandon \- Jan 2011](https://integratedmen.net/testimonials/brandon-jan-2011/) - [Jeff – Community Member](https://integratedmen.net/testimonials/jeff-nov-2013/) - [Benjamin – Community Member](https://integratedmen.net/testimonials/benjamin-dec-2013/) - [Mark – Community Member](https://integratedmen.net/testimonials/mark-feb-2014/) - [Gary – Community Member](https://integratedmen.net/testimonials/gary-may-2014/) ## Mini Blog - [Seeking The Approval Of Women](https://integratedmen.net/miniblog/seeking-the-approval-of-women/) - [The Habits Of Highly Ineffective Men](https://integratedmen.net/miniblog/the-habits-of-highly-ineffective-men/) - [Survival Mechanisms](https://integratedmen.net/miniblog/survival-mechanisms/) - [Doing Something Different](https://integratedmen.net/miniblog/doing-something-different/) - [Problems in relationships](https://integratedmen.net/miniblog/problems-in-relationships/) ## Workshops - [Boundaries for Better Relationships \- Apr 18, 2026](https://integratedmen.net/workshops/boundaries-for-better-relationships-apr-18-2026/) - [Finding Your Purpose and Passion in Life \- Mapping Your Purpose \[Workshop \#2\] \- \[2026\]](https://integratedmen.net/workshops/finding-your-purpose-and-passion-in-life-mapping-your-purpose-workshop-2-2026/) - [Find Your Purpose and Passion in Life \- First Steps \[Feb 7, 2026 Workshop\]](https://integratedmen.net/workshops/find-your-purpose-and-passion-in-life-first-steps-april-2025-workshop/) - [Charting Your Course for 2026 \- A Guided Workshop for Conscious Living](https://integratedmen.net/workshops/charting-your-course-for-2026-a-guided-workshop-for-conscious-living/) - [Living by Your True Values \(Nov 22, 2025\)](https://integratedmen.net/workshops/living-by-your-true-values-nov-22-2025/) ## Video Testimonial - [Eric](https://integratedmen.net/video-testimonial/eric/) - [Krishna](https://integratedmen.net/video-testimonial/krishna/) - [Ermo](https://integratedmen.net/video-testimonial/ermo/) - [Mike](https://integratedmen.net/video-testimonial/mike/) ## Categories - [Blog](https://integratedmen.net/blog/) ## Product categories - [2025 Retreat Basecamp](https://integratedmen.net/product-category/2025-retreat-basescamp/) ## Optional - [Sitemap index](https://integratedmen.net/sitemap_index.xml)